Do your mornings consist of lots of hurry-ups and a gazillion you’re-going-to-make-us-late agains, spewing from your mouth and aimed at your kiddos?
If you find yourself running around frantically, shouting at each other, stuffing lunches into backpacks, and shoving granola bars and fruit at your kids while walking out the door, then let me introduce you to a method that will instantly transform your morning from chaos to calm in just 15 minutes a day.
My mornings used to be just like your frantic crazy rush, too. They consisted of loud yelling across the house, rushing each other out the door, eating quickly in the car, and exchanging a quick hug before parting ways for the day. Then, one morning in the middle of that quick drop-off hug, I found these words spilling out of my mouth, “I’m sorry for all the swearing this morning, guys.”
Whoa. Big. Old. Sign. Something. Is. Wrong. Brakes. Please.
We had gotten to a point where our morning routine rained down stress all over us all the time. It was the exact opposite start to the day that is so deeply needed in all of our lives. It was not how I wanted to start my day, and it definitely was not how I wanted my children to begin theirs either.
The morning of the swearing incident, I returned home, plopped down, feeling extremely defeated and broken after yet another chaotic start to the day. Grabbing a giant cup of coffee to console my tired soul, I flipped through my emails, and came across a course a fellow blogger friend had shared. I read the title, “Makeover Your Mornings,” and my heart sank a little bit deeper.
You know that feeling when you don’t know what you need, but God does. And then he promptly delivers it to your inbox. Thanks, big guy.
I clicked over to read more about the course and within 3 minutes had snagged what would be the most transformative 15 minutes I would spend every morning for the next 14 days for just $17 bucks. I spent the next hour reading through the different material, and jotting down countless notes that I found pertained to my life.
I think that we all live hectic, chaotic lives, but one day it catches up to us. And, the morning of the swearing incident was my breaking point. I realized that my hectic morning routine was not only affecting my life, but also my kids’ lives. Not only were my days off to terrible starts, but, so were my theirs … because of me. That, I realized, was unacceptable.
The 14-day online class (video tutorials and your own workbook) revolutionized my morning routine in a way that prioritized important aspects, while weeding out the unnecessary ones. It was as if I had personally met with the author, and then she tailored the 14-day challenge specifically for me. Each morning, we would have a fifteen minute coffee together – I’d watch the video tutorials with great anticipation as she seemed to speak right to me, and then take a few minutes to improve myself by going through the workbook for that day.
Changing my morning routine has been one of the greatest and smartest decisions I have made in regards to my personal life, as well as parenting my people.
While the Make Over Your Mornings course is full of tons of good methods you can immediately implement, there were two simple adjustments to how I approached our mornings changed our lives changed dramatically – carving out 15 minutes each evening for morning prep time and getting up 30 minutes before my kids did each morning. Revolutionary, y’all.
Every night I began to dedicate 15 minutes to planning and preparing for the next day’s activities. This actually added much needed structure and organization to our days. The following morning, I made a point to wake up before my kiddos. I know, crazy. This little extra alone time in the morning not only gave us all more time to get ready, but it gave me more time to spend with myself. That’s right – remember how you are never ever alone? Well, now you can start your day that alone and it is amazing.
The extra 15 minutes in the evening and 30 minutes to myself in the morning instantly brought a calmness to the start of our day – a calmness that we feel all day long.
In addition to these two tweaks, I found three of the 14-day topics in Make Over Your Morning essential to transforming our morning routines from chaos to calm. Here’s those three.
On Day 3 of the course, I discovered big rocks. This method totally hit home for me because it described a practice that I already work on establishing in my life on a daily basis – the notion that we cannot do it all and we must prioritize what it is we really do want to do. The day’s challenge made me sort out two to three big things to focus on each day – that’s right, a max of three things rather than the 500 on my list! I immediately learned to prioritize in places I didn’t realize even needed prioritizing.
Creating A to Do List That Serves Not Strangles.
Day 8 took Day 3 to a deeper level by challenging me to think differently about my to-do list by sorting things on it further into must dos versus should dos, and setting a general time frame for each item. For me, I discovered that I all my life I was creating endless, all-encompassing to-do lists, giving everything on it equal weight. Instead, I learned to write down the list, identify what the most important items and delete the others. The shorter list made my day feel less busy and ore focused, and it was even more rewarding when I finished a task.
Failure Is an Option!
And, then, I arrived at Day 13, which I like to simply refer to grace. Because, try as we might, sometimes I do not finish all the must dos. Some days, I don’t even get to one of the must dos, but that’s okay because on Day 13 of this course, we are reminded that we are just human beings who are trying and we don’t always succeed. It’s okay to get off track. It’s okay to take a day off from being super mom. In fact, usually it’s necessary. Just give yourself a little grace every now and then. Personally, I take mine with a glass of Cabernet.
Instead of being riddle with anxiety and overwhelm, our mornings since the swearing incident are now the moments that I look forward to the most. Setting aside time for myself allows me to center my mind on the things that are important to me, while ridding myself of unnecessary stresses.
I think that learning to implement any form of routine will transform your life in unimagined ways, simply because you will replace chaos with a little structure, which brings about a feeling of calmness. But if you don’t even know where to begin with starting a routine and your chaos is out of control, I recommending a little help from Make Over Your Morning. You will replace those hurry-ups and you’re-going-to-make-us-late-agains with a happiness routine that will get everyone out the door with a smile on their face. I literally swear by it. 😉